Today when I heard about the Supreme Court ruling for same-sex marriage, I tried to memorize the morning. The mug of French roast coffee. Michael Franti singing on my iPhone. My husband on the couch, reading sports headlines. A scroll of news on my computer. My 11-month-old son crawling on the floor, building a tower of soft blocks. It was so normal, so everyday.
And yet, it was extraordinary.
I wanted to imprint it all on my brain so someday, when my son asks about the historic day all Americans received the right to marry, I could tell him every detail: The pale haze that diffused the sunshine. The humidity that hung thick in the air. The whirr of a lawnmower. How history was just a moment after breakfast, when everything was the same and different all at once, and a cup of coffee was suddenly underscored with great importance, and I was joyful.
Then I realized my son might never ask me about this day at all — because he will have no reason to. He will grow up in a country where people just get married. No qualifier.
This is all he will ever know: That people love and are loved.
– Add one woman, fragile with fear and grief, and send her up in a plane
– Combine with one tender-hearted skydiving instructor who offers to skip the skydive and ride the plane down instead
– Jump anyway. Jump with this man, even when your hands shake and your stomach is in your throat. Make one skydive, and then make another, and make hundreds more after that. And when the instructor asks you on a date, say yes. Yes! You’ve already trusted him with your life.
– Drizzle with chocolate.
Warm Sugar Cookie
– White mocha hot chocolate
– Hazelnut syrup (1 pump tall, 2 grande, 3 venti)
– Vanilla syrup (1 pump tall, 2 grande, 3 venti)
– Sprinkle raw sugar on top
– Add the winter day on the steps of Immaculata Church, warming your hands on a thermos and watching the sun rise over Mt. Adams.
– Add strawberry, orange, mango and very berry juice to the first line
– Fill with lemonade to top
– Spend days chattering with monkeys, rowing the Amazon and drinking rum on a sugar plantation. Fall asleep in a thatched rainforest hut, smeared with deet, bodies tangled like jungle vines
– Add ice and shake!
Stormy Days Tea
– Earl Grey tea semi dry misto
– 2 pumps vanilla syrup
– 2 pumps of caramel syrup
– Add one skydiving accident
– A move across the country
– One stolen car
– Your mother’s death
– Fertility issues
– Miscarriage
– Illness
– Moving. Three more times.
– Cling to each other because the world feels too vicious and sad to navigate alone.
Anniversary Cake Frappuccino
– Vanilla soy frappuccino
– 2 pumps hazelnut
– Add 1 beautiful, boisterous baby
– Toss in 2 teeth cutting baby’s gums
– A broken dryer and a clogged kitchen sink
– Burn the pancakes and forget to make the coffee
– Call the babysitter
– Drive away giggling because the dishes can wait and the laundry will air dry, but this is your anniversary day
– Go to the movies and hold hands for two hours, as though you just met
